On this, the five year anniversary of my mother’s death, a re-blog. I miss you, mom. #grief #mentalhealth #cancer #motherdaughterrelationships
“Mother-daughter relationships are complex. The relief you feel to see your mother’s suffering end – when you watch the stress lines around a loved one’s eyes and mouth melt into that peaceful eternal sleep – can be palpable. But the grief for loss of what was and could have been can hang over you like a dark cloud. It can bury you, if you are not careful.”
January 27, 2012
One year ago today, my mom passed away…
Mother-daughter relationships can be complex. My relationship with my mother was that and then some. As her only child, I was the focus of her attention, her criticisms, her praise…everything. She was a colorful character, my mom. She had a deep laugh, a wry wit and a ferocious temper. She was beautifully stubborn, intensely loyal with a deep faith. Mom was a remarkable woman who had shouldered her share of heartache and pain. She was an alcoholic diagnosed as bi-polar quite late in life. And, tragically, once mom had successfully battled those demons she was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer.
My stepfather has been a rock, of course. He was incredibly attentive to mom and her needs. He struggled to keep and care for mom at home – probably for way too long. Although Mom designated me as her…
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